The 3 Questions that have the Power to change Your Life
Published February 17, 2010
In my journey as a coach I have come to realise that it is the quality of the questions that we ask ourselves every day that determines the quality of our lives. It took me a couple of months go from ‘knowing’ this to really understanding the full impact of this simple statement.
It was an extraordinarily powerful moment when it hit home!
At one time or another we have all heard someone say “Ask a silly question and you’ll get a silly answer”. Well think about what that means for you, in your own life, right now?
Let me give you an example so that you can appreciate just how powerful this really is; so grab yourself a pen and paper and get ready.
Put all distractions out of your mind and take a few moments to relax and make yourself comfortable. When you are ready, think of some of the questions that you ask yourself on a daily basis. Make a note of what comes to your mind.
Now. Think of someone who really inspires you. Someone who has made something of themselves. It doesn’t matter if it’s a business leader or a sports star as long as it is someone that you really admire. Imagine the questions that that they ask themselves everyday. Imagine what goes through their thoughts. How do those questions differ from your own?
Are you asking yourself the right questions?
Being able to ask the right question is actually more important than the answer will ever be because it is the question that determines the answer!
I’ll give you an example. Look at the difference between the following two questions…
“Why can’t I earn more money?”
“What can I do to create additional income in my spare time?”
The first question is a very limiting question. In fact it is almost rhetorical. You are already telling yourself that it is impossible for you to earn any extra money and that will never change. It’s almost as though the answer is too frightening to admit to your self.
The second question is an inspiring question. It gets you to consider your strengths, not your weaknesses . It allows you to give your imagination free rein and drives you forward. It is a question that demands action and that action, in turn, will allow you to make the necessary changes to your life!
Look again at your original questions and review them. Any limiting or negative phrasing needs to be rephrased into positive questions. Something else to bear in mind is that when it comes to our thoughts what you focus on is what you get, so ensure that you change all “Don’t wants” into “Wants”.
Once you have written all of these out you will be left with your inspirational and actionable questions!
Consider these questions…
These 3 questions really do have the power to change your life for the better permanently, so I suggest that you think hard about each question before you decide on your final answer. Don’t be afraid to change your answer if you feel compelled to do so. It is only by thinking seriously on the questions be being as honest as you can with yourself with the answers that you will put yourself directly on the path to permanent change.
- If you were to live your life to the FULL, what is the first change that you would make?
- What are the three most limiting/destructive things that you do on a daily basis, whether they are thoughts or actions?
- If you knew that it was impossible for you to fail at anything that you set your mind to, what would you do next?
Make the change permanent
Just by spending 20 minutes each day thinking about those questions and answering them in a positive and resourceful way will have an immediate and dramatic effect upon your life. The difference that you can make to your life right now is amazing and, best of all, it is possible! The only thing that you require is the commitment to follow the changes through.
Think about this. If you made the commitment, here and now, to spend 20 minutes each day thinking on these 3 questions your life would be drastically different in just one week! All it takes is for you to think about these questions whilst you are walking the dog, or find a quiet place where you can be undisturbed during your lunch break at work, even go for a late night stroll or get out of bed 20 minutes early!
A great question can inspire you to think along lines that you have never considered before. This, in turn, can open your mind to new experiences and ideas that you would have never thought possible. Taking our normal everyday questions and giving them new focus will force you to rethink what you know.
Questions really have the power to change your life!